Hey, Mama! Yeah, you . . . . you with the spit-up stain on your top and the baby boogers on your shoulder, you, with the peanut butter smudge on your yoga pants. I know you probably haven’t showered in the past twenty-four hours and you probably can’t remember the last time you had your haircut. I know you probably don’t even know where your makeup is right now or when the last time is that you wore any of it. I know that date night, if it even exists, is takeout and Netflix, and there is no guarantee that you will stay awake for the whole movie. I just wanted to pop in and tell you that this is all temporary even though it seems like it will never end.
I also know that you probably don’t realize that what you are doing is one of the most important jobs on the planet. I know you spend your days wiping little noses and little bottoms and think that what you do is far from important. You, my dear, are shaping the future of the planet. You, the unshowered, bare faced, boogered, peanut buttered mess that you are, are raising the next generation of the world’s leaders, educators, engineers, medical geniuses, etc. One day that nose you just wiped may make some amazing discovery, that bottom you just cleaned may sit in the seat of the chairman of the board of some Fortune 500 company.
You, my sweet sister, are making an investment for all of humanity. Those sleepless nights, those hours in the rocking chair, those endless songs you sing and stories you read, while they may seem like never ending drudgery now, are forming the very people who will shape our world and make it a better place. Please try to remember that when it feels like you just can’t give anymore. You are a superhero, don’t let anyone tell you that you aren’t.
The good news is, it will get easier. You will work your way out of this job eventually. I promise you, one day you WILL own a blouse that doesn’t have spit-up stains on it, you WILL shower on a regular basis and you WILL find your makeup. Your babies will learn to wipe their own noses and bottoms. They will sing their own songs and read their own books and when they do, they may even sing them and read them for you. That is when you will start to think it was all worth it. Then, someday, they may even write some songs and author some books. It will be at that point that you will know that it was more than worth it.
So, today, when you are exhausted and in need of a shower, a trip to the salon, a night out, and maybe a glass of wine, try to imagine a day eighteen years from now when you are getting dressed for your child’s graduation. You may not miss the boogers on your shoulder, but I guarantee you, you will miss the child who put them there.