Written By: Michelle Devi Ananda
Something awful has happened. You’ve been fired, someone has betrayed you, you lost a battle perhaps you didn’t even know you were fighting . You’re hurting. It’s palpable. We feel you.
In your day to day life, your energy speaks volumes through your verbal and non verbal communication. When something is going on under the surface, the vibe your emitting can be felt in almost anyone you come across. It’s tough. We gather around and support you in your time of need.
We ask that you be healed.
We as a community of care givers want that for you deeply. Please, also, want that for you. And where you can, take a pause to sit with your event or circumstances and the lessons that just may be opportunities for you in disguise.
Call on your guides. Call in all the Angels. Cry if and when necessary.
Do not be afraid to ask your close friends for help. We feel you.
But in reference to the big picture, the great big one with all of the outcomes and lessons learned and the pain and suffering transformed, there is a commitment that’s important to your own dignity, your self respect, your on and off line reputation that’s imperative to your healing process & I think it’s about time to make:
Keep your social media feed clean.
Listen, we are all guilty of underhanded digs through GIFs or MEME’s at someone who betrayed our trust. They are just too damn easy with the flick of a wrist. Heck that spike of dopamine when they the likes and comments start rolling in oh gurl! That can be so very satisfying and addictive. And no doubt yes, there is a constitutional amendment that grants you every right to exercise your freedom of speech. But consider if you will that your words have so much power, so much impact that penetrates deeply through the internet and beyond that you in this blip of a wound may not be able to full grasp.
A temporary experience you’re in may suddenly be graced with a wind of change, for example, a friends break up that is being blasted for all eyes to see could be reconciled days later or a post about a stolen item may turned up found, in the possession of the person who posted. Drawing lines in the sand may cost you your own peace of mind and a door slammed on a perfectly imperfect miscommunication.
Our thumbs rarely think of negative repercussions to unmindful social media activity. And because it’s become commonplace our personalities have become so reactive to our devices to just let our thoughts just go. And sure you may think you have marked your output ‘friends only’ but do you remember all 1059 people on your friends list?
One or two of them could screenshot your share and forward it to the wrong person.
I personally have experienced people who posted nonsense on Facebook after a misunderstanding. While I’m in a place to forgive/pray/release I definitely have a hard time forgetting some of the pain their social media posts brought both on and offline.
Here’s are some thoughts on how to reign in the feels before sending your vibes be it in a snarky meme, tweet or online photo – out across the internet universe.
Would it hurt you if you were applying for a job?
Could a loan or financial manager use it against you?
Would a rental agency or landlord deny you an application because of what you are about to share?
Would/could it affect a higher education application?
Would you repeat the sentiment to a stranger in the supermarket for others to hear?
Is it something that could affect your children/parents/family?
If you are an entrepreneur, is what you are about to say worth an ounce of bad marketing for your business?
Could it sever any chance of friendship or relationship in the future?
Is it legal? – Please consider if what you are putting out into the universe could be considered threatening, harassing or slander.
Are you being insensitive to someone who may be grieving a significant loss?
Is this post necessary? Is it kind?
What really does this thought have to say about YOU?
In the last two and half years, we’ve all been subject to an enormous amount of political posts no matter what side of the party line that we live on. I don’t know about you, but so many of them make me want to grit my teeth. In addition, we have people on our feed that only post photos of their food, their parent ‘fails’ or incessant workouts and yet others who seem to only find the doom, gloom or see red over what seems to be almost everything in their life. It seems no matter what our mood we may have an adverse reaction to any of the aforementioned when our eyes meet the screen.
We can scroll past politely can’t we?
As humans, we are meant to be ‘social’ creatures. Connection opens up space for us to be creative, to express ourselves and our basic need to be seen, heard and loved.
If you nix someone from your online feed for something you disagree over, you are deleting an opportunity in real life which ultimately creates more disharmony than good.
Can you consider staying connected by politely hiding their feed or unfollowing them for thirty days?
And while we’re here, these bullet points may prove positive to you in face to face conversation as well. The world is a very small place and more often than not, you never know who you will meet that you may leave a questionable impression on.
What I’m trying to really say here is that your words have significant power in all times, all space and all realities. They tell a lot about your personality and how you are capable of handling or not handling yourself in the face of adversity. So please be mindful – putting others down online or out loud, of attacking business owners, perpetuating gossip, airing out your dirty laundry or just using social media as a dumping ground for your monkey mind is not sexy or fun, or awesome.
Keeping your output light will bring more light into your life.
I’d like to challenge you to give it a go for the next ten to thirty days.Post something you want to illuminate that brings you happiness or joy and see how your feed and the world changes around you. Lift someone else up. As the edict of MOCC says, it takes a village. Let’s strengthen our community by focusing on our strengths. I promise if you are feeling something that’s the opposite of awesome it will help your own healing experience too.
Happy posting Mombers.
Michelle Devi Ananda is the owner of Venus Rising empowering retreats, workshops and Kundalini Yoga classes on and offline. Check out VenusRisingInc.com